Breakup Bootcamp

A real bootcamp with Amy Chan

Everyone has heard those words before. Sometimes a breakup is very hard to get over and sometimes you do not know how to feel or what to do once “you’re done”. The first phase of a breakup is the “crazy” phase…when you react based on your emotions (sending long text messages, posting on social media, etc). *Quick Tip: Studies show that it only takes 90 seconds…90 SECONDS…for emotions to escape your body. In order for this to be true, you have to let go! You can no longer put time, thought, nor energy into the breakup. A coping method Amy Chan discussed is breathing. Concentrate on your breath. (If you have an Apple Watch, then open the Breathe app and use it until you are calm.) She mentioned it is good to inhale for 3 seconds, hold your breath for 5 seconds, and exhale for 7 seconds. Try it! 3…5…..7…….feel any different?

A neural pathway is the connection formed by axons that project from neurons to make synapses onto neurons in another location, to enable a signal to be sent from one region of the nervous system to another.

Your body is used to getting its dosage of dopamine and oxytocin from the person you were in a relationship with. Whether it was from text messages, different levels of intimacy, etc. Depending on how long you have been in a relationship, it is going to take your neural pathways some time to prune away. You, now, have to build new pathways. Whatever you used to do with your ex, do not do it anymore! If you watched a TV show together and, now, you cannot watch it without thinking of them, then don’t watch that TV show! Give yourself time to heal.

Stop trying to save someone whom you know does not want to be saved!! All of the red flags are there, but you are ignoring them thinking you can fix them. You think you can make them become a better person. You are wrong! You can save yourself the pain and the heartache by not even getting involved with a toxic person. Everyone is not relationship material!