Support | Shadow | Overachiever | Underachiever
You and your partner, both, play a vital role in the dynamic of your relationship. However, do you know which role you play? Are you the support, the shadow, the overachiever, or the underachiever?
Support
Shadow
Overachiever
Underachiever
Support- you are consciously available to your partner in all aspects: mentally, physically, and emotionally. You compliment each other.
Shadow – you feel as if you are just filling up space and you are accommodating who you are for your partner.
Overachiever – you have everything together. You are the backbone and the go-to person within the relationship.
Underachiever – you always have your hand out somewhere in need of help.
Remember! These are not personality traits, but specifically a dynamic. Often times our focus is on our partner so when there is an issue within the relationship, we tend to blame that person. However, we need to reevaluate ourselves and see how we take part in that specific issue.
Though when reevaluating, do not confuse habits with the essence of who you are. Do not make every issue a challenge. If it is not against your values or your morals in life then be willing to listen to and compromise on things with your partner.
*Note* You may not always be the supportive one, the shadow, the overachiever, or the underachiever. The dynamics may change from time to time.
Information from The Love Hour podcast with Dr. Maria Dominguez
Love 101 