Avoidance vs Acceptance

When moving on from someone who was once a great part of your life, it is difficult to find the balance between avoidance and acceptance. Many times we think we are accepting the situation and moving on, when we are really just avoiding the situation and moving on. Which is better for you well being? Acceptance of course! But how do you truly know if you are?

Avoidance is when you are not really dealing with the situation. You are trying to forget everything that has happened. You are letting it go and sweeping it under the rug. By doing this, you are robbing yourself of a positive lesson. There is a fear you have of facing the situation head on because you may not like what you see or you may not like dealing with confrontation, or you may be afraid of the reality that someone has wronged you. There are many reasons why moving on by avoiding may seem like the best way to go because it is the easy way out. However, that is not benefiting you nor allowing you to better yourself.

Acceptance is dealing with the situation and understanding what happened, why it happened, and how it happened. You are moving on and being your best self! You are facing the situation head on by addressing all of those questions (what, why, and how) and reevaluating not only the other person involved, but yourself as well. You are understanding both sides. There is a positive lesson that you have taken from the situation.

*Note* In order for you to fully move on from someone, your heart and mind needs to be in agreement with one another. You cannot move on if your mind is saying one thing and your heart is saying another!