Women have a difficult time admitting that they need help and support from others, especially when they are independent and a BOSS! However, women make the mistake of thinking they do not have to ask for support. When a woman is in love or just truly cares about someone, she instinctively offers to help. She will look for ways to offer her support with great delight and enthusiasm. So, she expects someone to do the same for her in return. Although when it comes to a man, that is most likely not going to happen. Let’s be real! It is not because the man does not want to support you. Men just think differently than women. A man needs for you to ask and make it known that you need help or support. So, ladies stop purposefully putting your partner through a test to see if he will volunteer because he will not!
Now with that being said…here are 5 secrets of how to correctly ask a man for support.
- Appropriate Timing. Timing is crucial! If he is focused on something, then do not ask him to help you and expect him to immediately. Also, if you see he is about to do something, then do not ask him to do what he was already about to do.
- Nondemanding Attitude. Make a request and not a demand. A man will feel unappreciated if you use a demanding tone.
- Be Brief. Avoid making a list of reasons why he should help you. The longer you explain yourself, the more he will resist.
- Be Direct. Do not expect him to offer his support and neglect to ask for it. Be direct. An indirect request makes a man feel taken for granted and unappreciated.
- Use Correct Wording. One of the most common mistakes in asking for support is the use of could and can in place of would and will. Always use “would you…” instead of “could you…”.
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