Our past unresolved feelings periodically resurface when we are upset. When we are upset, about 90% of the upset is related to our past and has nothing to do with what we think is upsetting us. Generally, only 10% of our upset is appropriate to the present experience. When a man’s past comes up, he goes into his cave because he is overly sensitive and just needs acceptance. When a woman’s past comes up, she descends into the well of her feelings and her self esteem crashes. She needs T.L.C. (tender loving care).
Know that negative feelings resurface from the past because you have not properly dealt with those emotions. There are different ways/outlets to address these feelings effectively. You have to find what works best for you. It may be different ways of practicing self care, venting to friends, or seeking counseling.
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