A relationship is like a garden. New seeds must be sown and weeds must be pulled taking into consideration the season and the upcoming weather. Love is not always easy because we do not always feel loving. Sometimes love require some hard work depending on the season.
The Springtime of Love
Falling in love is like springtime. We feel as if though our partner is a breath of fresh air. As though nothing could go wrong and we will be happy forever. It is a time of immaculateness when everything seems perfect and works smoothly.
The Summer of Love
Throughout the summer of our love we notice our partner is not as perfect as we thought and we have to work on our relationship. Our partner is a human being who makes mistakes and is flawed.
The weeds arising, in this situation, are frustration and disappointments. They need to be uprooted and the plants (you and your partner) need some extra watering under the hot sun. It is no longer easy to give nor receive the love that is needed.
Many couples at this point are disillusioned because they expect springtime all the time. They do not want to work on the relationship. They blame it all on their partner and give up. In the summer season of love, we need to cherish our partner’s needs as well as ask for and receive the love we need.
The Autumn of Love
The season we get to harvest the results of our hard work tending to the garden during the summer. The season of love that is rich and fulfilling. During autumn, we practice a more mature love that accepts and understands our partner’s imperfections as well as our own. The season of thanksgiving and sharing. The time to relax and enjoy the love we share and created with our partner.
The Winter of Love
The weather changes again and, now, we are in the cold months of winter when all of nature pulls back within itself. The perfect season to sit back, rest, and reflect. The season of healing and renewal. This is a time in relationships when we experience our own unresolved pain. It is a time of solitary growth when we need to look more to ourselves instead of our partner for love and fulfillment. The time when men hibernate in their caves and women sink to the bottom of their wells.
On the bright side, springtime is right around the corner. Soon enough we will feel all of the blissful blessings of springtime. The feelings of hope, love, endless possibilities, and an abundance of happiness are at the end of the cold, wintery journey of soul searching and inner healing. That journey allows us to open our hearts and feel the springtime of love all over again!
*Information from Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by Dr. John Gray*
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