Moving On

“The hard part is not realizing you are not meant to be together. The hard part is accepting it.”

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From having many different conversations with people, many agree that breaking up is not the hard part; moving on is what’s hard. I have created a list of the top 5 reasons most people agree (not in any specific order).

1. Hate seeing them with someone else
   • You have invested a lot of time and energy into the relationship. You fell in love, you became vulnerable, and you opened yourself up. I understand the frustration. I know how it feels to have it all go down the drain. However, if you hate seeing them with someone else, then you are not over them. You have not moved on. I get it! It is a process! Realizing this is the first step.
2. Reminiscing
   • Thinking back on the good times, or maybe even the bad times, is normal. Different things will happen in life as you are moving on that will make you think of this person you are trying to leave in the past. It is okay! As long as you are strong enough to not pick up the phone and call/text them to, later, regret it, then reminiscing is fine.
3. The good in them
   • If you are like me, then you always try to see the good in people, even when there isn’t anything good in them to see. If you do not want to be with this person and you are trying to move on, then stop tying to find reasons to stay. Move on!
4. What you are used to
   • Depending on the period of time you have dated this person, it can be challenging to move on because you have to adjust to a new norm. You are used to talking to this person every day, spending time with them, and being there for each other. Now you aren’t doing any of those things. It is a part of the moving on process. Find hobbies, hang out with friends, etc. to take your mind off things dealing with your ex.
5. Closure
   • Closure is something a lot of people think they need when they get out of relationship. “I need answers.” “I need to know why.” “I don’t understand.” 9 times out of 10 you already know why you broke up. You don’t need any answers. To me, wanting “closure” is hoping for another chance. Save yourself! Just move on! Finding happiness and pure bliss after the relationship is your closure.