Living with your Significant Other

Information gathered from Amanda Seales’ podcast “Small Doses”

Playing house is, basically, just sharing space. You guys are playing around until one of you are over it and then you decide to keep it moving. There is no obligation. No responsibility. You have not, specifically, voiced any expectations. You have not, physically, demonstrated any either. For example, one is not helping pay bills, haven’t moved in all of their things, etc.) In this type of situation, one can easily exit and move on without leaving anything behind.

Living together is a bit more serious. This takes commitment, dedication, and consideration. You have planted roots once you have committed to living together. Living together is more than waking up and sleeping next to each other. It is more than showing up when it is convenient for you. It is more than having a toothbrush that stays in bathroom. It is more than having a key to the place or your own drawer in the dresser. Living together requires effort. You are doing more than sharing a space. You are now in the space where your significant other is there not only physically, but mentally, emotionally, etc. All of the dimensions of wellness are live and in action for the both of you!

If you want to play house…cool! If you want to live together…cool! I am not saying right vs. wrong here! I am just stating the difference between the two because many people get the two confused 🙂