I Said What I Said

This Week’s Topic: Communication

In order to communicate properly, you must understand what is trying to be communicated, what is actually being communicated, and how it is being perceived OR understand the intensity of what is being said and how to address the issue/the root of the situation.

Vincent and Briana are a couple on Married at First Sight (television show that airs on Lifetime at 8pm on Wednesday nights) who are experiencing communication issues. Vincent says he is being disrespected by Briana, but, truly, he is feeling micromanaged. Briana feels that she is being rude based on how Vincent is expressing his feelings to her. She is hearing from him that it is her tone of voice when she is talking to him, so she thinks she just needs to say things in a nicer way.

Vincent’s inability to communicate properly is leading Briana to only frustrate him even more. Why? Because even if Briana micromanages in a more nicer way, Vincent will still feel disrespected. Why? Because he communicated it was her tone and not her controlling what he does.

On The Love Hour podcast, Melissa and Kevin said something that was very powerful. “When communicating, a person likes to take a situation/scenario to illustrate a bigger issue. However, their partner, instead, defends the situation and misses the entire issue.” Moral of the story is to make sure you are using the correct choice of words to express how you feel about a situation. Paint a clear picture of what is happening, create a plan to solve it, and state what your expectations are moving forward.