Je Ne Sais Quoi

“that something special” “that elusive charming quality”

Je ne sais quoi is a french expression that translates to “I don’t know what”. You know when you just like someone, but don’t know what it is about them that has you feeling so in love? That’s what we’re talking about today!

That elusive quality boils down to someone who is comfortable in their own skin and can’t be made to feel down about themselves. It is not about the looks. It is not about the intelligence. It is about mystery and learning how to create intrigue.

A man may say “I need a little time.” What is the correct response to him? Helping him pack because that is how much you love yourself. You love yourself enough to not want to be with someone who does not want you. This also gives a man that mental challenge that we discussed in the previous blog which intrigues him.

Also, in the previous blog, I discussed seven principles of attraction. Well, here are two more!

1. The biggest variable between a b**** and a woman who is too nice is FEAR. The bitch shows that she is not afraid to be without him. “Fear has a smell, as love does.” (- Margaret Atwood) A woman does not make decisions based on the fear of losing a man. This woman is not considered to be a b**** because of her personality, demeanor, or how abrasive she may be. It is because she is not willing to give herself up for a man.
2. If the choice is between her dignity and having a relationship, the b**** will prioritize her dignity above all else. This type of woman stays true to who she is. She remains the same person throughout the relationship. She does end friendships. She does not quit her job. She does not quit her hobbies. She does not give up her time to bend over backwards for a man. And unlike the doormat (nice girl), she is not going to tolerate disrespect. While committing to all of these things, she still has her edge. She still holds her own. She doesn’t have fear, but he, now, has fear of losing her.

These two principles add to the Je Ne Sais Quoi. This gives him that “something special”, that “I don’t know what it is about her”, that “elusive charming quality”.