In relationships, it is not always how about you treat your partner, but how you treat yourself. You want to be a companion and the “nice” person for your partner, but that does not mean you have to become a pushover. A relationship should not require you to pull the plug on your life to accommodate your partner.
Below is a little quiz of 10 questions. Read through each question and answer truthfully. Are you too nice?
- Do you often tell your partner that you want to be treated with respect?
- Do you feel guilty when you say no, or do you say no and then second-guess yourself?
- Do you often pass up sleep or the need for personal time to meet your partner’s needs?
- Do you find yourself bartering or negotiating for what you want or need?
- Do you find that you repeat what you have asked for as though they did not hear it the first time?
- Do you regularly see your partner on short notice or when it is convenient for them?
- Do you find you are much more doting and affectionate than they are?
- After a fight, are you always the first one to contact them or the first to apologize?
- Do you constantly want more attention or reassurance?
- Do you often feel depleted after they have been with you?
If you answered yes to five or more of the questions, then you are giving more than you are receiving in the relationship. You are being too nice. Talk with your partner and find a happy balance. One party giving more than the other is never healthy. So, it is best to notice it and make the proper changes together, now, before it ends badly.
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