Basic B**** 101 | Attraction Principles 49, 50, and 51
She may be trying too hard to impress him. She may be trying too hard to win him over. She may be trying too hard to be sexy. A man notices a “try hard” from the very first conversation. You should never try too hard to make an impression. Men like women who are natural.
Attraction Principle #49
According to Sherry Argov in her book Why Men Love B******, jumping through hoops often has a negative outcome. He sees it as an opportunity to have his cake and eat it too. But, when you stay just outside of his reach, he will stay on his best behavior.
Remember the “golden rule” we all learned in kindergarten? We can going to make a few modifications.
Let’s Replace…
“Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.”
“Love conquers all.”
“To give is better than to receive.”
“Charity begins at home.”
“All is well that ends well.”
“Love thy neighbor.”
With…
“Do unto others after they show you they are worthy.”
“Love conquers her, when she gives all.”
“It is better to give and receive.”
“There is no charity case in this home.”
“All is well for those who cover their ends well.”
“Love thyself first.”
Attraction Principle #50
The nice girl gives away too much of herself when pleasing him regularly becomes more important than pleasing herself.
Do not sweep your needs under the rug or make accommodations to your plans for him. He will act as if jumping through hoops is perfectly normal and it is not. If he doesn’t respect any of your needs, then why respect his?
Attraction Principle #51
The relationship may not be right for you to find yourself jumping through hoops. When something is right, it will feel easier and much more effortless.
Remember, it is not about a man! This is your life! Do things when it is convenient for you!
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