Nagging behavior tells a man that you are affected by every move he makes. Nagging, in a sense, rewards him. It reassures him that you care.
In the last blog, we discussed attraction principles related to jumping through hoops and making yourself more available than need be. Now, we are going to discuss two more attraction principles in relation to nagging.
Attraction Principle #55 (according to Sherry Argov) states “Negative attention is still attention. It lets a man know that he has you — right where he wants you.” Women differ in terms of how long it takes to run out of steam when it comes to voicing their feelings and emotions over and over again. According to men who were interviewed, women have their own personalized style of nagging:
- The Marathon Nagger: someone who will nag for a longer time, so they pace themselves.
- The Spirit Nagger: someone who will nag for a shorter period of time. Usually more intense and gets tired quicker
- The Momentum Whiner: someone who will start out with a whine and build up to a nag
- The Sunrise Whiner: someone who wakes up and immediately starts nagging
- The Nightcap Nagger: as soon as their partner is falling asleep, this person is sure to remind them of something they either did not do or has to do the next day
- The Bushwacker: someone who loves the element of surprise. At random moments throughout the day they will nag
- The Sniper: someone who premeditates on what they are going to say and/or shoots low blows
Attraction Principle #59 (in the book Why Men Love B******) states “When you nag, you become the problem, and he deals with it by tuning you out. When you don’t nag, he deals with the problem.”
Try something new! Don’t nag. Don’t show emotions. Do not explain and tell him why you are no longer nagging. Show rather than tell! Men are territorial and love to “fix” things. They also despite when someone else fixes things before them. So, do not nag, just mention something once and lay back to see what happens. No longer be the “Nagging Nancy”.
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