Are You Dating A Narcissist?

Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or narcissism, is a personality disorder characterized by a sense of grandiosity, the need for attention and admiration, superficial interpersonal relationships, and a lack of empathy. It often accompanies other psychiatric disorders and can be difficult to treat.

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Statistics

Only 1% to 6% are diagnosed with NPD. The percentage is very low because people usually don’t visit a mental health professional due to the fact that most don’t see they have a problem. Research shows that there are some genetic involvement and central nervous system involvement, but majority comes from something in a person’s early environment that was invalidating. People who display narcissistic traits usually have deep feelings of inadequacy and insecurities.

Why Do We Love Narcissists?

Narcissists look good on paper. They have the “C-Suite” (Charm, Confidence, Charisma, Curious, and Comforting). During the first phase of a relationship with a narcissist, they make everything peaches and cream. This phase is called the “Love Bombing” phase. They take you on the best dates to the nicest restaurants and bars, buy you gifts, and give you that fairytale love story. Hence, they like to do things they think will make them look good to the world. But, once they realize they got you, things change.

Trauma Bonding

Trauma Bonding is the next phase of the relationship. When things just aren’t peaches and cream anymore. You’re constantly fighting for the same love and attention you were getting during the “Love Bombing” phase. The narcissist begins justifying their unhealthy patterns, devaluing you, and crumble you so that they can always control you.

Advice

These type of people are not likely to change and if they ever do change, then it will most likely not be on your watch. They have to recognize the narcissistic traits they have, want the help, and get the help from a good therapist. Like I stated in the beginning of this blog, most narcissistic people do not see anything wrong, so therefore, they do not want help or seek help. So, my advice to you is to leave this person for good. There is no need in wasting more of your time. There is no need in putting yourself through more hurt. There is no need in trying to change someone who is most likely not going to change.