To me, assertiveness = freedom. Being assertive is the first step in taking back your time, energy, and, really, your life. You must be assertive in order for your affirmations and manifestations to prosper, so I am going to start with everyday assertiveness.
Everyday Assertiveness
Being assertive allows people to know where you stand. It requires a deep look into relationships with others, but most importantly, yourself! Being assertive allows you to protect your values, availability, capability, and needs. Every human has 6 needs:
- Certainty – the need for consistency, stability, and safety
- Variety – the need for diversity, challenge, and adventure
- Significance – the need to feel needed, wanted, and validated
- Love & Connection – the need for communication and intimacy
- Growth – the need for intellectual, spiritual, physical, and emotional development
- Contribution – the need to do good, serve others, give, and protect
Never apologize for what you are due as a human being!
Now, moving onto affirmations because, like I stated before, I think the two go hand in hand.
Affirmations
- Be Confident
- Stay Beautiful (inside and out)
- You Are Unstoppable
Men and women tend to have a “confidence gap” due to all of the things we have to juggle in life such as gender roles, physical and emotional labor, workplace expectations, etc. To combat these things, we must speak positive statements out loud daily. We MUST think positive every day! Speaking affirmations helps us stand ten toes on being assertive about our needs. Each day speak statements that begin with something similar to “I am…..”, and “I will…”, NOT “I’ll try….” because the word “try” does not hold you fully accountable.
*Information gathered from The Art of Everyday Assertiveness by Patrick King and Bad*** Affirmations by Becca Anderson.*
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