Women are socialized to be nurturers and care givers. However, being a people pleaser can be detrimental and it is important to recognize when it is becoming a detriment to you and others.
Tiffany Hall has categorized people pleasers into 4 different categories:
- Fixer – need to be needed – constantly being of service – neglect themselves and have guilt for caring for themselves
- Perfectionist – need for everything surrounding them to be perfect
- Overachiever – obtain accomplishments to feel worthy
- Peace Keeper – tries to keep the peace between everyone
Find out your people pleasing personality type here!
Advice for People Pleasers
- Find Harmony and Balance amongst the many different hats you wear
- Take care of yourself before you pour into others
- Establish boundaries
- Beware of the content you are consuming (social media)
- Do not feel guilty or shameful for putting a stop to people pleasing
- Steer clear of narcissist because they latch on to people pleasers
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