There are basically four stances that individuals take to avoid getting hurt in arguments. They are the four f’s: fight, flight, fake, and fold. Each of these offers a short-term gain, but in the long run they are all counterproductive. Fight. When a conversation becomes unloving and unsupportive some individuals instinctively begin to fight. TheyContinue reading “The 4 F’s for Avoiding Hurt”
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How to Listen Without Getting Angry
Men and women often times become angry with one another while communicating because they tend to forget that they communicate differently. Below are some suggestions about what to do to prevent getting angry while communicating with your partner. Remember anger comes from not understanding their point of view, and this is not their fault. TakeContinue reading “How to Listen Without Getting Angry”
When Both Partners Are Down
Lately I have been talking about intimacy cycles. If you have been reading my blogs, then I’m sure you guys are wondering what happens if you both are at your low point and can’t support the other. Well, here are 3 steps for supporting each other when you, also, need to pull away. Accept YourContinue reading “When Both Partners Are Down”
Supporting vs. Obstructing Intimacy Cycles
In previous posts, I have discussed how men are like rubber bands and women are like waves. In this post I will explain how you may support your partner’s intimacy cycle and how you may obstruct your partner’s intimacy cycle. Supporting Men and Women Ladies!!! Fellas!!! Whether we would like to admit it or not,Continue reading “Supporting vs. Obstructing Intimacy Cycles”
Women Are Like Waves
In the book, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, Dr. John Gray uses the metaphor women are like waves to discuss their intimacy cycle. She rises and falls in a wave-like motion. When she is feeling really good, she will reach a peak, but then her mood may change and her wave crashesContinue reading “Women Are Like Waves”
L.U.V.
While being quarantined at home, I have been doing nothing but watching television. So this article was inspired by Marriage Boot Camp (Hip Hop Edition) with Dr. Ish. He discussed relationships need L.U.V. L.U.V. Listen to your partner without interrupting and really take in everything they are saying. L.U.V. Understand what your partner has saidContinue reading “L.U.V.”
10 Common Complaints
To fully express their feelings, women assume poetic license and use various superlatives, metaphors, and generalizations. Men mistakenly take these expressions literally. Below is a list of common complaints ,often times, heard by women that men easily misinterpret. Women: “We never go out.” Men: “That’s not true. We went out last week.” Actual Meaning:Continue reading “10 Common Complaints”
7 Signs You Have A Good Partner
They handle conflict maturely. Name calling, ridiculing, and physical abuse is not something you deal with. When you are in disagreement, they do not put you down or behave aggressively. They talk respectfully, calmly, and openly. They celebrate your successes. They see your accomplishments as a great thing. They do not dismiss them or seekContinue reading “7 Signs You Have A Good Partner”
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