Lately I have been talking about intimacy cycles. If you have been reading my blogs, then I’m sure you guys are wondering what happens if you both are at your low point and can’t support the other. Well, here are 3 steps for supporting each other when you, also, need to pull away.
Accept Your Limitations
The first thing you need to do is accept that you need to pull away and have nothing to give at the moment. You cannot attentively listen to your partner, so don’t try when you know you can’t.
Understand Their Pain
Understand that your partner may need more than you are able to give at this moment. Their pain is valid, so don’t make them feel wrong for needing you. You are, also, not wrong for needing your space too. You both have to understand that now is not the time.
Avoid Arguing and Give Reassurance
Although you are not able to give the support your partner needs, you can avoid making it worse by arguing. Reassure them that you will be back and will be able to attend to them after you have taken the time needed for yourself.
Timing is very important. If you and your partner are both at a low place where you need time and space, then try reaching out to a friend. Lean on a friend for support during this time until you and your partner are able to come back together as one.
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