So there is this theory called the Mama/Hoe Complex which a man will either see his “mama” or his “hoe”. Not meaning hoe in a derogatory way as in saying someone who sleeps with multiple people, but as in a person who he considers his girl, his woman, his lady in the streets but his freak in the sheets lol.
Now, they say every man is looking for a woman like his mom, but that does not mean you should treat him as if you are his keeper. There are 4 “Mommy No-No’s” that makes a man feel smothered or suffocated, which will turn him off. They are:
- Do not appear to check up on him or ask him to check in with you. (If he checks in voluntarily, then cool but do not force it.)
- Do not expect him (without asking first) to spend all of his free time with you. (You need time apart in a relationship anyways.)
- Do not ask him to account for the time that he is not with you. (He will view this as punishment or an obligation, which takes away the pleasure and excitement of being with you.)
- Do not be overly doting, leaving him no room to come your way. (Don’t be clingy.)
Love 101 