Alexa, play “Independent” by Webbie featuring Lil Boosie and Lil Phat!
Keeping your pink slip, basically, means to be able to hold your own without depending on your man. If you can take care of yourself, then everything he gives you becomes gravy because he isn’t the whole mashed potatoes. If you get what I am saying. He does not provide you your livelihood.
Attraction Principle #78 – Your pink slip is maintained when you can stand on your own with or without him. He should never feel that you are completely at his mercy.
Once a man feels like you are completely at his mercy, that is when the disrespect comes into play and he begins to mistreat you. A man will never respect you as being able to hold your own unless you are standing on your two feet financially. You have to show that you are a boss and have a lot to bring to the table!
There are 3 key points to take note of:
- The ability to choose how you want to live and the ability to choose how you want to be treated are the two things that will give you more power than any material object ever will.
- In a relationship of any kind, if one person feels the other person is not bringing anything to the table, he or she will begin to disrespect that person.
- The ability to take care of yourself ensures that all of the following will remain intact: the mental challenge, the respect, the longevity of the relationship, and the sexual desire.
As a true b****, keep your power in EVERY way! Live by your own rules. Move to your own rhythm. Decide how you want to be treated. Stand ten toes on what you will and will not tolerate. And if it comes down to it, leave if you do not get what you want.
Love 101 