At the start of my relationship with my fiancé, I used to ask a lot of “off the wall” questions and think of random scenario questions. So much so that my fiancé, who was a guy I was just casually talking to at the time and getting to know, named these conversations “daily deeps”. IContinue reading “Daily Deeps”
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Weaponized Incompetence
Also known as strategic incompetence, weaponized incompetence refers to a situation wherein a person pretends to be bad at doing something in order to get out of doing certain tasks. It can pertain to any task at all but usually manifests itself in home life settings, like care tasks, leading to domestic inequalities. Modern Intimacy WeaponizedContinue reading “Weaponized Incompetence”
Master Your Emotions
Happiness | Sadness | Fear | Disgust | Anger | Trust | Regret | Shock The ability to control emotions and understand them is to have a high EQ ( Emotional Intelligence). Having a high EQ means you are less likely to act on impulses and have the ability to be aware of emotions andContinue reading “Master Your Emotions”
I Said What I Said
This Week’s Topic: Communication “I said what I said.” Person A “But you didn’t say what you mean.” Person B In order to communicate properly, you must understand what is trying to be communicated, what is actually being communicated, and how it is being perceived OR understand the intensity of what is being said andContinue reading “I Said What I Said”
Play Ball
The most you will do in your relationship is be friends and solve conflicts together. There are 5 ways to work through conflicts and things to take into consideration when communicating with your partner. L.U.V. In a previous blog posted I discussed the L.U.V. technique. Listen, understand, and validate. Listen to what your partner says.Continue reading “Play Ball”
The 90/10 Principle
Our past unresolved feelings periodically resurface when we are upset. When we are upset, about 90% of the upset is related to our past and has nothing to do with what we think is upsetting us. Generally, only 10% of our upset is appropriate to the present experience. When a man’s past comes up, heContinue reading “The 90/10 Principle”
The Love Letter Technique
There are times when a surge of different emotions come over your body and you are not able to communicate at that very moment. There are times when talking just does not work. Satisfyingly, there is an alternative. Write a letter! Writing down your thoughts and feelings allows you to be aware of how unlovingContinue reading “The Love Letter Technique”
The 4 F’s for Avoiding Hurt
There are basically four stances that individuals take to avoid getting hurt in arguments. They are the four f’s: fight, flight, fake, and fold. Each of these offers a short-term gain, but in the long run they are all counterproductive. Fight. When a conversation becomes unloving and unsupportive some individuals instinctively begin to fight. TheyContinue reading “The 4 F’s for Avoiding Hurt”
How to Listen Without Getting Angry
Men and women often times become angry with one another while communicating because they tend to forget that they communicate differently. Below are some suggestions about what to do to prevent getting angry while communicating with your partner. Remember anger comes from not understanding their point of view, and this is not their fault. TakeContinue reading “How to Listen Without Getting Angry”
L.U.V.
While being quarantined at home, I have been doing nothing but watching television. So this article was inspired by Marriage Boot Camp (Hip Hop Edition) with Dr. Ish. He discussed relationships need L.U.V. L.U.V. Listen to your partner without interrupting and really take in everything they are saying. L.U.V. Understand what your partner has saidContinue reading “L.U.V.”
Love 101 