Sexual Pursuer Sexual Distancer Emotional Pursuer Emotional Distancer Depending on whether you are a pursuer or distancer usually depends on your upbringing. The attachment theory gives background on why you may be one of the two. Secure Avoidant Anxious Securely attached people generally had a healthy childhood and are better at approaching intimate relationships. AvoidantContinueContinue reading ““Pursuer” or “Distancer””