Blaming others for our pain is our go-to mechanism. We are quick to demonize rather than empathize. The culture of blame keeps us safe. There is a cultural storyline that glorifies transformation. Suffering, in fact, allows you to grow. Unaddressed, unacknowledged pain does not go away. Feeling WITH yourself and others (empathy) is the hallmarkContinue reading “The Culture of Blame”
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Stages of Grief
The 5 Stages of Grief The stages of grief were developed by Kübler-Ross. According to her, an individual who is grieving is expected to move through a series of clear stages: denial, anger, bargaining, and depression, to eventually arrive at “acceptance” at which is a time that their “grief work” should be complete. However, later,Continue reading “Stages of Grief”
Words of Comfort May Feel So Bad
As humans, it is part of who we are to want to make others feel better. We want to help and we want to be helped. However, grieving individuals often feel shamed and dismissed. There is not a Grief Olympics! Grief is as individual as love – each loss is different and not one isContinue reading “Words of Comfort May Feel So Bad”
Grief is NOT a Problem
No matter what anyone says, grief is not a problem. It is not “wrong”, it is not an “illness”, and it cannot be “fixed” or “cured”. Acknowledgment is everything at this time. You are in pain and it cannot be made better. However, you do not need solutions. You do not need to move onContinue reading “Grief is NOT a Problem”
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