The most you will do in your relationship is be friends and solve conflicts together. There are 5 ways to work through conflicts and things to take into consideration when communicating with your partner. L.U.V. In a previous blog posted I discussed the L.U.V. technique. Listen, understand, and validate. Listen to what your partner says.Continue reading “Play Ball”
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The Seasons of Love
A relationship is like a garden. New seeds must be sown and weeds must be pulled taking into consideration the season and the upcoming weather. Love is not always easy because we do not always feel loving. Sometimes love require some hard work depending on the season. The Springtime of Love Falling in love isContinue reading “The Seasons of Love”
The 90/10 Principle
Our past unresolved feelings periodically resurface when we are upset. When we are upset, about 90% of the upset is related to our past and has nothing to do with what we think is upsetting us. Generally, only 10% of our upset is appropriate to the present experience. When a man’s past comes up, heContinue reading “The 90/10 Principle”
The Love Letter Technique
There are times when a surge of different emotions come over your body and you are not able to communicate at that very moment. There are times when talking just does not work. Satisfyingly, there is an alternative. Write a letter! Writing down your thoughts and feelings allows you to be aware of how unlovingContinue reading “The Love Letter Technique”
5 Reasons a Man Stops Giving
Women often times complain about their partner being loving in the beginning of the relationship, but then gradually becomes passive. Below are list of five major reasons a man stops giving that Dr. John Gray addresses in his book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. Men idealize fairness. A man thinks because heContinue reading “5 Reasons a Man Stops Giving”
How to Listen Without Getting Angry
Men and women often times become angry with one another while communicating because they tend to forget that they communicate differently. Below are some suggestions about what to do to prevent getting angry while communicating with your partner. Remember anger comes from not understanding their point of view, and this is not their fault. TakeContinue reading “How to Listen Without Getting Angry”
12 Kinds of Love
Below is a list of 6 different kinds of love a woman and man needs with explanations of each. She needs… Caring When a man shows interest in a woman’s feelings and concern for her well-being, she feels loved and cared for. He fulfills her first primary need, which causes her to begin to trustContinue reading “12 Kinds of Love”
When Both Partners Are Down
Lately I have been talking about intimacy cycles. If you have been reading my blogs, then I’m sure you guys are wondering what happens if you both are at your low point and can’t support the other. Well, here are 3 steps for supporting each other when you, also, need to pull away. Accept YourContinue reading “When Both Partners Are Down”
Supporting vs. Obstructing Intimacy Cycles
In previous posts, I have discussed how men are like rubber bands and women are like waves. In this post I will explain how you may support your partner’s intimacy cycle and how you may obstruct your partner’s intimacy cycle. Supporting Men and Women Ladies!!! Fellas!!! Whether we would like to admit it or not,Continue reading “Supporting vs. Obstructing Intimacy Cycles”
Women Are Like Waves
In the book, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, Dr. John Gray uses the metaphor women are like waves to discuss their intimacy cycle. She rises and falls in a wave-like motion. When she is feeling really good, she will reach a peak, but then her mood may change and her wave crashesContinue reading “Women Are Like Waves”
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