Guarding yourself from those last minute dates and last minute calls when he has nothing better to do.
While reading the book “Why Men Love B******” by Sherry Argov, one of her attraction principles stated “A man knows which woman will give in to last minute requests.” She created a chart to distinguish between when a man is treating you like a backup and when a man is treating you as someone he adores when it comes to last minute dates/calls.
The Spontaneous Guy Who Is Treating You Like A Backup
- You don’t hear from him for 2 weeks at a time and then all of a sudden you get a phone call
- He prioritizes social engagements with his drinking buddies
- He makes travel arrangements with friends and never asks you to accompany him.
- He is irritable when he is around you and frequently complains of not having time to himself.
- He calls you to cancel plans for the evening. Later that night, you call right back and it goes directly to voicemail. Then he calls the following day with a good excuse.
- He won’t ever take you out or spend much money. He may ask you for a loan. Before you know it, you are supporting the guy through college.
- You make it known that you are available on a weekend night and even though he works during the week, he doesn’t make himself available to see you.
The Spontaneous Guy Who Wants To Show You He Adores You
- He makes dates ahead of time, and he also wants to see you spontaneously in between.
- His buddies complain that he fell off the face of the Earth. They hassle him, but he doesn’t care.
- He’s constantly asking you to take time off from work so you can get away together.
- He is happy to be in your company. His friends and family all think he looks happier than ever.
- If he has to cancel, he feels badly about it. He calls you when he gets in from wherever he is because ht has nothing to hide and he wants you to know he’s being totally “on the level”.
- He’ll do anything just to see you smile
- He almost always sees you whenever you have time, unless he has a professional commitment or there is an important extenuating circumstance.
Keep these things in mind and take notes on his behavior. Decipher whether you are being treated as a backup or first priority.
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Oh this is good! Before I got into a relationship with a wonderful man, I would always wonder if I was the problem and not being spontaneous enough. I had a guy actually tell me that I wasn’t the spontaneous type when in fact he was just leaving me as a last option. Great read! More of us women need to recognize these patterns.
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Thank you for reading! I agree, more women need to understand which is why I thought this blog was important! I’m glad you were able to relate!
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