Green flags are words, behaviors, and feelings that makes someone feel seen, heard, safe, healthy, and supported by the other. With that being said this is not an all or nothing situation. Everyone is human. Everyone makes mistakes. These are green flags in terms of how you typically feel around the person. A nine timesContinue reading “Green Flags”
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Are You Undateable?
Ever had the thought cross your mind that maybe you are the problem? Maybe you are. I know it sounds harsh, but it is real. Let’s talk about things that may make you undateable. Bad Dating History Dating many people can be a positive and a negative. It is great to explore your options andContinue reading “Are You Undateable?”
Daily Deeps
At the start of my relationship with my fiancé, I used to ask a lot of “off the wall” questions and think of random scenario questions. So much so that my fiancé, who was a guy I was just casually talking to at the time and getting to know, named these conversations “daily deeps”. IContinue reading “Daily Deeps”
Security
As I am studying to become a Marriage and Family Therapist, I was assigned a reading related to Emotion-Focused Therapy. This model of therapy uses the integration of attachment theory and the emotional system. In previous blogs, I have explained attachment styles and pursue/withdraw patterns. If you not have read those, then please do soContinue reading “Security”
S.P.I.C.E It Up
Information gathered from a relationship coach, Spicy Mari. Below is a 5 step process geared toward spicing up your relationship and building intimacy with your partner. Self The self is the blueprint for any relationship. Understanding yourself as an individual and your partner as their own individual is the first step before successfully accomplishing anythingContinue reading “S.P.I.C.E It Up”
TTP: Sex Ed
TTP (The Principles of Pleasure) Pleasure…..the idea that pleasure is allowed only by certain people at certain times in specific ways is OLD SCHOOL. Pleasure should include everyone! Welcome to my TTP Series. This is the first blog about The Principles of Pleasure (new Netflix series, please check it out) where I will address SexContinue reading “TTP: Sex Ed”
Weaponized Incompetence
Also known as strategic incompetence, weaponized incompetence refers to a situation wherein a person pretends to be bad at doing something in order to get out of doing certain tasks. It can pertain to any task at all but usually manifests itself in home life settings, like care tasks, leading to domestic inequalities. Modern Intimacy WeaponizedContinue reading “Weaponized Incompetence”
What’s Your Apology Language?
The 5 Languages of Apology by Gary Chapman I’m sure many of you have heard about the 5 love languages and, hopefully, you all have taken the love language quiz to determine how you like to give/receive love. Gary Chapman, the author of The 5 Languages of Love, also wrote a book titled The 5Continue reading “What’s Your Apology Language?”
Erotic Blueprints
First off, let me start by saying if you have not watched Sex, Love, and Goop on Netflix, then please do so! Especially if you are looking to take things in the bedroom to new heights! Experts Gwyneth, Jaiya, Amina, Darshana, Kato, and others all work with Goop. During the Netflix series, they introduce theContinue reading “Erotic Blueprints”
Are You Dating A Narcissist?
Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or narcissism, is a personality disorder characterized by a sense of grandiosity, the need for attention and admiration, superficial interpersonal relationships, and a lack of empathy. It often accompanies other psychiatric disorders and can be difficult to treat. Google Statistics Only 1% to 6% are diagnosed with NPD. The percentage isContinue reading “Are You Dating A Narcissist?”
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