Blaming others for our pain is our go-to mechanism. We are quick to demonize rather than empathize. The culture of blame keeps us safe. There is a cultural storyline that glorifies transformation. Suffering, in fact, allows you to grow. Unaddressed, unacknowledged pain does not go away. Feeling WITH yourself and others (empathy) is the hallmarkContinue reading “The Culture of Blame”
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Stages of Grief
The 5 Stages of Grief The stages of grief were developed by Kübler-Ross. According to her, an individual who is grieving is expected to move through a series of clear stages: denial, anger, bargaining, and depression, to eventually arrive at “acceptance” at which is a time that their “grief work” should be complete. However, later,Continue reading “Stages of Grief”
Words of Comfort May Feel So Bad
As humans, it is part of who we are to want to make others feel better. We want to help and we want to be helped. However, grieving individuals often feel shamed and dismissed. There is not a Grief Olympics! Grief is as individual as love – each loss is different and not one isContinue reading “Words of Comfort May Feel So Bad”
Grief is NOT a Problem
No matter what anyone says, grief is not a problem. It is not “wrong”, it is not an “illness”, and it cannot be “fixed” or “cured”. Acknowledgment is everything at this time. You are in pain and it cannot be made better. However, you do not need solutions. You do not need to move onContinue reading “Grief is NOT a Problem”
Endometriosis
Endometriosis is when tissue similar to the tissue that lines the uterus begins to grow outside the uterus. In this gynecological disorder, some of the uterine cells that normally shed during menstruation attach themselves elsewhere in the body. Typically, they attach within the pelvic cavity. An interesting fact about endometriosis is that the level ofContinue reading “Endometriosis”
Ovulation
In the previous blog post, I mentioned ovulation usually occurs between phases 1 and 2 of a woman’s cycle. A woman could have an extremely delayed ovulation due to stress or other factors, not ovulating until day 30 or so. This would result in a 44-day cycle. Factors that affect ovulation: Medical causes for anovulation:Continue reading “Ovulation”
Body Temperatures
“Temperature risin’…your body’s callin’…” *shoutout to Tory Lanez* A woman’s temperature can determine a lot about her cycle. Whether she is ovulating at all, whether the second phase of her cycle is long enough for the egg to implant in her uterus, and whether she conceived during that cycle. There are 3 different phases ofContinue reading “Body Temperatures”
Fertility
Anywhere between 21 to 35 days is a normal length for your menstrual cycle. The regularity of your cycle indicates fertility or infertility. 1 in 6 couples are infertile. However, many are misled to believe that they are infertile when, in fact, they are fertile. There are 3 primary fertility signs: There are many reasonsContinue reading “Fertility”
Green Flags
Green flags are words, behaviors, and feelings that makes someone feel seen, heard, safe, healthy, and supported by the other. With that being said this is not an all or nothing situation. Everyone is human. Everyone makes mistakes. These are green flags in terms of how you typically feel around the person. A nine timesContinue reading “Green Flags”
Are You Undateable?
Ever had the thought cross your mind that maybe you are the problem? Maybe you are. I know it sounds harsh, but it is real. Let’s talk about things that may make you undateable. Bad Dating History Dating many people can be a positive and a negative. It is great to explore your options andContinue reading “Are You Undateable?”
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