Let’s discuss terminology Vulva The vulva is the outer part of a woman’s genitals. The vulva is made up of a mons pubis, clitoral hood, clitoris, urethra, labia majora, labia minora, and vaginal opening. The mons pubis is the hair-bearing area of skin that is overlaying the pubic bones. This area is bonded superiorly byContinue reading “TTP: Vulva, Vagina, Yoni”
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TTP: Sex Ed
TTP (The Principles of Pleasure) Pleasure…..the idea that pleasure is allowed only by certain people at certain times in specific ways is OLD SCHOOL. Pleasure should include everyone! Welcome to my TTP Series. This is the first blog about The Principles of Pleasure (new Netflix series, please check it out) where I will address SexContinue reading “TTP: Sex Ed”
Weaponized Incompetence
Also known as strategic incompetence, weaponized incompetence refers to a situation wherein a person pretends to be bad at doing something in order to get out of doing certain tasks. It can pertain to any task at all but usually manifests itself in home life settings, like care tasks, leading to domestic inequalities. Modern Intimacy WeaponizedContinue reading “Weaponized Incompetence”
Protecting Your Crown
As African American women, we refer to our hair as our crown. We are all Black Queens and as a queen, it is important to protect and honor your crown. Below are ways to ensure that you are protecting your crown. Maintenance It is important to, literally, show TLC to your crown. Wash, detangle, moisturize,Continue reading “Protecting Your Crown”
What’s Your Apology Language?
The 5 Languages of Apology by Gary Chapman I’m sure many of you have heard about the 5 love languages and, hopefully, you all have taken the love language quiz to determine how you like to give/receive love. Gary Chapman, the author of The 5 Languages of Love, also wrote a book titled The 5Continue reading “What’s Your Apology Language?”
Are You Dating a Softboy?
A softboy is a fckboy, but without the cocky attitude. The softboy appears to be emotionally literate and is attuned to his/your feelings. He (it’s usually a he) replies promptly to texts, listens carefully to your problems and genuinely seems like an all-round good person. But, he’s prone to leaving a trail of broken –Continue reading “Are You Dating a Softboy?”
Eliminate Negative Thinking
It can be difficult to tell the difference between negative thinking and everyday worries or anxieties that everyone experiences. When thoughts become too intrusive and unrelenting is when it becomes negative thinking. You must understand how to overcome negative thinking and doing so will allow you to become resilient to change, safeguard your mental health,Continue reading “Eliminate Negative Thinking”
Reframe Your Menstrual Cycle
Information gathered from the Balanced Black Girl podcast Things that can effect your cycle: exposure to sunlight/moonlight birth control stress/anxiety 4 Phases of Your Cycle Menstruation is the elimination of the thickened lining of the uterus. Fluid contains blood, cells of the lining, and mucus. During this phase estrogen and progesterone are very low, yourContinue reading “Reframe Your Menstrual Cycle”
Self Love vs. Selfishness
How we feel about ourselves influences every part of our lives. For instance, our relationships, occupations, our daily moods, and how we treat others are just a few different aspects of our lives that are affected by how we feel. Self love is all about attending to ourselves and our needs. Self love is beingContinue reading “Self Love vs. Selfishness”
Let Go of People Pleasing
Women are socialized to be nurturers and care givers. However, being a people pleaser can be detrimental and it is important to recognize when it is becoming a detriment to you and others. Tiffany Hall has categorized people pleasers into 4 different categories: Fixer – need to be needed – constantly being of service –Continue reading “Let Go of People Pleasing”
Love 101 